7. Ask for his or her perspective.
I’m not advising you to ask for your partner’s permission to break up — you’re definitely breaking up if you want to. But, especially in the case of a long-term relationship, it’s important to give your S.O. a chance to voice any concerns that he or she may have had about the partnership. Dating and relationships coach Christine Hart advises Elle Canadareaders to say the relationship isn’t meeting your needs and then ask, “What do you think?”
A guy once asked me that question, and although I was upset at first, it made me realize that I actually totally agreed with him. We were a lot better suited as friends. Adios, amigo.